Yak and Shain

So Yak's PT wants him to wear shoes all the time with insoles. :(. I just bought cute sandals at a real shoe place. But his feet are turning. Joy oh joy. He was my early mover and walker and I was hopeful his feet would be spared but alas it looks like its not the case. I did notice his feet are actually turning in, not out like mine do. But anyway I'm trying to follow her isntructions. i'm a very free-spirited barefoot run around the place person so I dont know if I can have him wearing them all day until he goes to bed but I'm trying to make sure they are on most of the time. I hope it helps, she thinks it can. I'm so not at the place of runnign to the MDA to see if they have CMT and need orthotics but I hope that my kids won't miss out becasue of that. I will follow my PT's recommendations seriously and I'm guessing both kids will be getting PT (and possibly OT) for the next buncha years. The good news is the PT is very happy with how Shain's progress is and she's been doing great with stairs and running. She's such a little free spirit like me and her status quo way of moving around is merrily skipping. I just pray she doesnt fall when shes doing that on the pavement and much more often than not she doesn't. But it does make both our spirits temporarily plummet when she goes kaboom when all she wanted was to be a happy little girl.

BTW, Yak also started with speech and special instruction because he's almost 2 1/2 and doesnt talk that much. He's shown a lot of improvement since he started and also since he started a little day camp with 6 other little 2 year olds. He's so much happier than when he just went to a babysitter - here he swims and colors and he really enjoys it! Plus my friend runs it so that is great. I'm not super concerned because Shain was also delayed and now she doesnt stop blabbing and has a super memory. My kids are adorable btw. I can't stop kissing them. Shain's best friend came for the whole weekend (he's a boy) and they played beautifully together. They built a whole city with our Legos and sang together in a band. Poor Yak was a little left out but he didnt seem to mind.

Have a great week!

The past few Friday nights have worked out really well. DH has been pretty helpful and I've been more upbeat and smiley when sitting at the table.

Friday night

So I have a sort-of-dilemma.

Every Friday night - Saturday night is our Sabbath, Shabbat, Shabbos whatever you want to call it. Its a day of rest and and we basically refrain from all electronic stuff and work and we hang out with family, eat, read, pray and SLEEP! So for those not familiar with what Shabbos entails, imagine a small Thanksgiving meal every Friday night and Saturday afternoon. There's lots to prepare beforehand, including cooking 5-course meals, cleaning the home, bathing everyone, preparing for guests which often come, etc. Its fun and very enjoyable, but yes, hard work!

So here's the dilemma. Lately, or I should say, almost always, come Friday eve, everything is finally ready and I light my candles and just collapse. The whole week of working and taking care of kids coupled with the extra prep work on Friday finally catches up and knowing that i'm finally at my deadline puts me into a very tired-lazy-just-wanna-sit-on-my-couch-with-my-feet-up mood. But I usually dont have much time to relax cuz I still have to take care of kids and set the table up so when my husband comes home from synagogue, all is ready. And basically, the whole meal, I'm somewhat 'blah'. I'll eat and chat and laugh but I'm so not in the mood of serving a big meal. Taking care of the kids and putting them in bed, constantly getting up and down to serve and clear off and standing on my feet to serve things such as soup and chicken feel like major labor to get through. Plus, i'm usually relaxing and surfing at this time of night so it's physically hard all around. But the dilemma is not just how to make this easier. Here it goes:

My wonderful husband has seen that Friday nights are hard for me and it bothers him. He wants me to be energetic and rested and happy and I totally get why. So he's basically taken over all cooking and cleaning the past number of weeks, which is amazing. I barely have to do anything in that department. Great. So whats the issue? The issue is...come Friday night and I'm still tired... even if I didnt do any of the cooking or cleaning. Its not like i have my feet up all Friday, even without cooking/cleaning, I'm still donig my share of getting things ready, bathing the kids - including washing hair, always fun and in general going up and down the stairs more often than usual. Truth is, I think that many people are tired Friday night even if they dont have kids or work full time. But I'm sure my CMT adds to the fatigue. So it frustrates my husband that even with him taking so much of my shoulders, I'm still not alive and energetic. And I dont know what to do about it.

Just as an aside - DH is not into me making CMT excuses. IN general this is actually a very good thing because I don't WANT to be someone who lazes around and does nothing because of a neurolgical disorder. I want to accomplish whatever I can and push myself to the limit. But what is my limit? When I try to explain that I get fatigued easier than many others, he claims I am 'pulling the CMT card'. Might be true. Prob not completely true. I probably could get energized if I was giong to - say - an American Idol show. But even then I tire easily.

Maybe I should relax more on Friday - like sleep instead of surfing when I come home from work. Maybe its a simple soloution like using a better chair at the meal which I can get up and down from easier. Maybe I should drink a coffee right before lighting candles. Or maybe I should just tell him that I might not be energetic no matter what I or he does and he should try to accept that about me.

Thoughts? Advice?